Understanding Your Relational Patterns
“The wound is the place where the light enters you” - Rumi
Oftentimes our triggers are our biggest indicators of where our wounds are, and therefore where we can heal. Understanding your relational patterns begins with becoming aware of how you react to triggering situations. Your friend or partner just triggered you. What are the responses you typically engage in?
Being Right: the need to win the argument
Controlling: trying to manage their behavior
Unbridled Self Expression: letting your feelings out without skill
Retaliation: responding to hurt with hurt
Withdrawal: pulling away to avoid conflict
These relational patterns oftentimes began when we were children. They stem from either modeling the way we were treated by our parents, or reacting similarly to when we were children. Relationship coaching and parts work can help to change this patterns that can feel so automatic.
